I love reading books like made for friendship because they have the ability to refocus your mind on something you know but aren’t really exercising to your fullest extent. Reading this book makes me feel simultaneously blessed and upset at the same time. For one, I think on my friends who have been there for me in my highs and lows. I think about how I had one of the greatest times surrounded by close friends hosting a murder mystery and also think about when I broke up with my ex and how I was comforted while breaking down in church and at home.
It upsets me also, because I realize how lousy of a friend I can be. It reminds me of my shortcomings and how I sometimes can be really selfish. I want to change that. What I would like more than anything would be to make a personal mark on someone. To be the kind of friend that does the things I will list below because that would be the kind of friend I would want.
The second section of the book talks about how friendship is a the greatest gift by stating 5 points. Friendship doubles joy, halves sorrow, brings counsel, encourages us, and changes us.
As I ponder through this I see how it’s true in my life. As previously stated, I don’t know how things would have been had not my friends been there in my highest of highs and lowest of lows. I think about how my friends would bring me counsel though for much of my history I have tended to ignore their counsel. I also think of how they encouraged me as well.
For instance, on this journey of writing and what not, I think of my friend Tony who motivates me to continue to write. This is kind of why I call this an unexpected Journey because I never thought that I would be writing a blog. It is also to mirror Tolkien’s The Lord of the rings since that book is all about how friendship changes things. It shakes things up.
One part that moved me the most was the friendship between C.S Lewis and Tolkien. See C.S Lewis encouraged Tolkien to keep writing even at his lowest points from which came out the Lord of the Rings. That series of books is most known for the friendships that end up changing the world of middle earth, much like good friendships change our little earth.
I think about how my friends have changed me for good, and sometimes for bad. Either way I see the way God uses friends to help us, build us and shape us. These are just a few verse that come to mind when reading this section of the book, each correlating to a point given.
- Proverbs 27:17 says “ as iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend”
- Proverbs 18:24 says, “a man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother
- Proverbs 17:17 “a friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity
- 1st corinthians 15:33 “do not be deceived: ‘evil company corrupts good habits
- Proverbs 15:22, “without counsel, plans go awry, but in the multitude of counselors they are established”
My final thoughts:
As a kid, I didn’t realize the importance of friendship. I think one of the most crucial periods in someone’s life is their teens to their thirties because people are still figuring out who they are going to be, not realizing that that has much to do with the company we keep. That’s something that isn’t talked about enough. We sacrifice true friendship for a good time and undercut our growth in the process. We substitute relationship for partnership and keep it surface level.
I hope in some way, this helps someone realize the value of a true friend.
With that being said I will end this blog.